Yes, marriage is one of the more important things that most of us will get into during our lives, and yes, love and companionship are important, but not at the cost of losing one’s self. And, with marriage, there comes a huge change in the lives of those two people. Marriage marks the union of two souls, who are ‘truly, madly and deeply’ in love with each other.
So, Marriage has a different meaning for women. After marriage, the girl enters a new life and a new home. She leaves her relatives and Friends and starts making new relationships.
It becomes very difficult for a newly wed to deal with all the responsibilities and with a new environment and routine. After few years of marriage when everything gets into a specific routine, there arise some different problems and issues. In fact, life is full of ups and downs and men and women have to tackle and handle things properly.
Well Girls, if you ever wondered what your life would be like after you get married, then let us give you an idea of the same. Here are the changes that every Indian girl experiences after she gets married.
Tips for Newly Married Women
- Get up early in the morning and complete your daily work, take bath and get ready.
- Prepare yourself mentally to work for your in-laws. Help your mother-in-law.
- Arrange your room before you leave it and put aside the clothes that need to be washed in laundry bucket.
- Take initiative for breakfast and do not starve yourself too. Have breakfast on time and then start preparing for lunch and dinner.
- Follow the way and if you find the environment suitable, try out one of your favorite recipes some day.
- Be prepared to face some irritability or tantrums. You have entered into a new environment and so, you need to get adjusted.
- Even if you find something unusual or unacceptable, do not react immediately. Calm down and analyze the situation keeping in mind other people too.
- While taking care of your in-laws and other family members, never forget your husband. Make sure you are there to see him off when he leaves office.
Change your Surname
In India, almost every girl change their surname after marriage. All Girl changes their complete name like Husband’s Name & then Surname because our culture says that.After 20–30 years of life girl gets good identity like men get in their worlds.But we all Indian girls just follow things as others are following it.I don’t agree that changing name really matters after marriage.
Forget your friends and Do not make new friends
The Traditional Indian man tends to be possessive because of which most girls equate marriage with a loss of total independence. Going for vacations with your friends or doing a night out with them or planning a solo travel jig become insanely complicated issues.
Lose your Personal Time
Before marriage, all girls have almost the 16 to 18 hours for themselves. Spend a lot of time with friends and for her personal interests. After marriage, you do not have time to even think about these. You Think only about your husband and keeping your in-laws happy; work at the office and at home. No time for yourself??
Get Permission to Meet your own Family
You need to get permission from your husband and mother in law to meet your own family and stay at their place.
Do all Housework and Office work
Get up early in the morning and complete your daily work, take bath and get ready.
Most Indian men, before marriage, work at home and even cook if they are staying alone. But as soon as they get married, it is expected for the women who are working to do office work as well as work at home.
Follow the Process
We Indians are expected to follow a process like Get married, have kids, raise them, pay for their education n all, take care of their needs and wants, save money for their weddings, get them married, and so on. What if we don’t want babies? It’s our choice, of course, but dealing with nosy relatives who are scandalized by our decision is not an easy task.
We have to behave like ideal daughters-in-law and you are forced to take up Extra responsibilities in order to keep everyone happy. You have to give up what you are in order to become a What they like.
Give up your Career Aspirations
Your mother in law does not want you to work after marriage, you would have an ambitious career aspiration, however, you are expected to lead a better family life and have kids rather than attaining your career aspiration.
Adapt to the new family whatever it maybe
It’s difficult to suddenly become a part of a new family with new norms and habits, start living with a new set of people and sometimes being forced to make “a show of respect” and build relationships with people we may not like very much.
Don’t Expect your husband to do housework
Men can be slobs, True. So can we, but our husbands aren’t expected to clean up our messes like we are expected to clean up theirs.
Men can be slobs, true. So can we, but our husbands aren’t expected to clean up our messes like we are expected to clean up theirs.You suddenly become more responsible
Before marriage, you were hardly accountable for anything in life. While the house was taken care of by your mother, the finances were handled by your father. But after marriage, you start taking care of everyone’s needs, be it your husband’s or your family members’. Interestingly, it does not even look like a burden to you. In fact, you love doing all this!
You change from ‘I’ to ‘we’
Your life was earlier all about just ‘you’, and you had the liberty to take your decisions on your own. And, now that you have to share your entire life with someone else, all your decisions are going to affect his life as well. Hence, whatever you do in life, it becomes about the two of you, and not just you alone.
You become more patient
After all, you will not have the option of breaking up over a petty issue once you get married. And, patience is the key to a successful marriage, right? That is what brings more maturity in your approach to dealing with the problems in life.
Your priorities also change
You always loved hanging out with friends, did not mind staying at the office till late sometimes to finish an urgent work, and what not! In fact, your friends, your career, and everything related to ‘you’ was your priority. Needless to say, your husband and your family get added to your priority list now. You might prefer dining out with your husband and in-laws, rather than hanging out with your besties. It is your family, household chores, family expenses, etc., that are continuously in your mind now.
You now think before you speak
Yes, it used to be perfectly fine even if you said something out of anger to your siblings or parents, as they always knew that you never meant it. But, after marriage, you become cautious of what you say. Obviously, you are new to this family, and anything wrong said by you might hurt them.
You become a better communicator
You might have been quite expressive even before your marriage, but the way you expressed your feelings then may have been different. Now that you watch your words before speaking, the way you communicate also improves. You not only learn to convey your feelings in a calmer manner, but you also excel in the art of listening.
You say goodbye to those carefree days
Did you love those late night sessions with your besties, didn’t you? Or, you never had to think twice before packing your bag for a random plan of an outing. But, now all the crazy things that you used to do with your friends now become a history.
You feel more secure
There might have been times before marriage when you felt all alone. Well, it is time to say goodbye to those lonely days as well. After all, now you have someone who will always be with you in good as well as bad times. You can talk to him whenever you want, rely on him for all your big or small needs, seek his advice when you are totally confused, and what not! And, who would not feel comfortable to have this level of security in life?
Your dreams become ‘our’ dreams
No, marriage does not mean that all your dreams and ambitions have to come to an end. Rather, all of your wishes just combined with that of his. What’s more? Now there are the two of you who will work to achieve them all!
You get special attention when you visit your parents
Well, you were always the little princess for your parents. But, the level of attention and pampering that you will get every time you will visit your home after marriage will be much more than what it used to be earlier. And, you are totally going to love all that, aren’t you?
So girls, don’t you think life is going to be so beautiful after marriage? And, even if a few of these changes scared you right now, all we have to say is just do not panic! These will soon become a part of your life and you will totally love your new role in life.